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In Indonesia, one of the cultural reasons of the lack of emancipation in terms of women’s education has always been around the issue of “the value of education for women”. Since women are perceived to be the “nurturer” and “care taker” of domestic domain, education is seen as “not so necessary” if not a waste. But then from what I see, the question is now shifting from “the value of education forwomen” to “THE VALUE OF EDUCATED WOMEN”. In Indonesia, highly educated women are perceived to be less desirable in terms of marriage (especially in traditional societies). Their standard is too high and they will not be good wives, they say.
The higher the education of single women, the more successful they are, the less likely she is to find a man. That’s what I was told before I left Indonesia to study here. “Why don’t you get married first? Many women who study abroad find themselves unwanted when they come back home, no one will have enough guts to approach them.” I am very lucky that I was raised in a family who values education very highly. My mother herself has a doctorate degree and she never fails to be the best mother ever. I see this whole fuss about ‘educated women being less valuable in terms of marriage” is nonsense.
But what about other Indonesian women? I’ve seen many examples of women rejecting a higher positions offered to them simply because they are still single and high position is the least thing they need to attract men. Or those who postpone or refuse scholarship because they want to be married first.
This devaluation of educated women has left majority of Indonesian women CHOOSE to be incapacitated. There’s RACE TO THE BOTTOM in terms of careers and education. The danger is presence. Studies have shown that to develop a nation, to achieve growth, women education must be enhanced. When they have the willingness to go to school but they have no source, it’s easier to handle. But when society or the fear of not being perceived as “what women are supposed to be” make them CHOOSE to be uneducated, it is way more complicated.
Whatever conventions related to women’s rights Indonesia ratified only affect the regulations, constitutions, law, and so forth. We need more than that, we need a change in mindset.
does it worth the time, the energy, the thought, the grieve to just get involved easily with guys? is being single that bad?
I mean I’ve seen friends dating different guys now and then, meeting up at a party or a club, or whatever. With their ups and downs. So much time to invest, so much thought, even so much grieve sometimes.
Making new friends are great, but investing feeling in “a relationship” or whatever “ship” you have out there with every guy who hits on you… i dont think it’s a good idea, or is it? Well, it’s not like I dont go out on dates, but I dont invest feelings and get hurt. To me dates end with “it was fun, thank you” not “why is he doing this to me?” or “I cant believe he treats me this way” like what I often hear from fellas who do invest their feelings and hope high from those random dates.
I dont get it, really!! why would you go out with jerks?? I mean go out and invest your feeling? Is being single that bad that you’d rather go out with jerks and get hurt? Complain? Distracted? Unfocused?
So far I play safe with my heart. I dont feel like I NEED to see someone. When I want to I go, but mostly I dont want. I feel content this way. At the time being, single status works really fine for me. But I also ask myself do we have to kiss those random frogs first to find a prince one day? I really do hope I dont have to. I hate frogs, literally and figuratively!!
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When It Comes to Relationships.....: Classic Pick Up Line of Francophone Guys -
1. Setting: a social event/ social places, you (a non-Francophone girl) is talking to a Francophone guy. You just met him, but having a nice conversation with him. (This kind of setting is very general, can happen all the time when you go out, kay?)
2. Try to say this “Btw, My french is not…
Phillip But when will I see you again?
Aurora Oh never, never!
Phillip Never?
Aurora Well, maybe someday.
Phillip When, tomorrow?
Aurora Oh no, this evening!
Phillip Where?
Aurora At the cottage… in the glen.
I always wanna know how it feels to have a white Christmas in a romantic European country, with snow… Christmas lights and decoration.. Carols… *well I am not a Christian, but I always love the atmosphere*
When I got the chance to move to Europe, I was so happy that I will finally experience the white xmas thing. I was so excited, I made plans.. I made plans for me and my ex (he was still my bf at that time) to travel around in December. Supposedly, that’d be our 2 years anniversary too. I imagine that would be the most romantic thing ever.. bla bla bla..
But we broke up, as we know it. I grieved and gave up the plan. Never mentioned about it. But guess what, if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. It was spontaneous and unplanned, suddenly a good friend is visiting Europe and i forgot how it ended up like this but we’ll meet up in Paris and gonna spend 3 days til Christmas Eve.
Ofcourse it’s not gonna be the same with the actual plan. But I guess it’s gonna be real fun, in a different way. Good friends, great landscapes.. we’re gonna do this whole trip in the most romantic place in the world in one of the most romantic times of the year in the friendzone, lol..we’ll have lotsa fun, good laughs always do the trick! ;)
“No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, a dream that you wish will come true” -Cinderella
“ I don’t know when, I don’t know how. But I know something’s starting right now. Watch and you’ll see, someday I’ll be. Part of your world …” Ariel, the Little Mermaid
“When will my life begin..?” Rapunzel, Tangled
“There must be more than this provincial life!” Belle, Beauty and the Beast
“The flower that blooms in adversity… is the most rare and beautiful of them all” The Emperor of China, Mulan.
“But you remember, Tiana, that old star can only take you part of the way. You got to help him with some hard work of your own. And then… Yeah, you can do anything you set you mind to. Just promise your Daddy one thing? That you’ll never, ever lose sign what is really important. Okay” James, the Princess and the Frog
Fairy tales. What did they teach me? Not that Pumpkin can be turned into golden carriage or that no matter how hopeless you are, a prince charming will come and kiss you a life.. if that’s what people get from fairy tale, that’s a pitty..
Walt Disney told me stories… about people,girls mostly, who want to make changes, who pursue their dreams no matter hard…to live see more of what life can offer, above the ocean, outside the province, outside the tower… to fight for what they believe.. to prove the world that they can (even to save the whole dynasty).
He told me stories that there’s always a way for us to make our dream come true…
I grasped those values and try to apply it to myself… now I have walked really far from where I started, a little girl who dreamt about and living overseas, gaining knowledge from the source I could only imagine before.. I am living that dream. If I didnt dream it, it is not possible that I am here right now.
But I am not quite there yet, I wanna make impact to other people’s lives too. I wanna be the change.
All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
Walt Disney
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My Bestie just forced me to apply the “Marx’s Dialectic Method” in texting to make me understand what she meant (refer to previous post, please)
And guest what, I just got invited for a trip to Annecy next week end, a beautiful small town in France with castles and everything.. cant wait!!!
